Sometimes, readers of my blog or followers of my social media posts will respond, and my first reaction answer can sometimes come across as short and abrupt.
Interesting article. I like reading about people's lifestyles and choices as it relates to naturism. You are quite fortunate to have found a partner who supports your lifestyle. Thank you for sharing.
interesting article to know your naturism journey & the hard efforts you have put in. It's very nice to see anyone getting what he/she is yearning for & enjoying it. Someone may have called you as lucky, however it's not to degrade your efforts which you have taken to live your life enjoying naturism. Because in some places/countries you don't have a choice to live your naturism life outside your home walls too, even if he/she is willing to take genuine efforts & I feel someone may have called you lucky only in that context.
Thank you. Another reader has made a similar observation, and yes I am lucky to have been born into a country that is more tolerant of social nudity. I accept that it is far more difficult for many people.
This is a great account of your journey and the choices that you’ve made. I can really relate to it because some of the timings and circumstances are similar.
I almost feel like I’m a sucker for punishment because I’ve taken a slightly different route. I’ve had that same “what’s getting me closer or further to the type of life that brings me joy.”
The biggest difference is that I’ve continued to work within the same relationship and family circumstances, which at times can be quite challenging but also immensely rewarding.
I think the biggest lesson that I’ve learnt in my journey since 2011 is that it’s not the people or circumstances around me that limit what’s possible. It’s my own mindset and how I view things around me.
I think a pivotal break through that I had was realising how large an impediment it is trying to conceal nudity. In my view that really boils down to an ingrained expectation that it’s socially unacceptable to be naked.
Once I realised this and got past the stigma of being seen naked by other people (non-nudists), then anything was technically possible. I could entirely choose my own boundaries and not be subconsciously directed by them.
The real benefit of all of these things combined is being able to remould and redefine nearly anything I turn my mind to. Thus it’s not luck that I can go naked at the local beach when I choose to. I’ve created that actuality. Anyone can.
Same around home. We tore down the front fence. We live somewhere that neighbours overlook the garden, but because I’ve got past that hesitancy to be seen naked, these aren’t impediments to nudity. If anything they’re enablers because now that I’ve got accustomed to being naked whether people are around or not, I don’t think about it.
Thanks for your comments. I think it is largely true that once we stop being bothered by what other people may think, we can be more true to ourselves.
It is certainly easier living in a nude tolerant society, it is worth noting however that this does not currently extend to all individuals. However the journey to one of total clothing optional acceptance is one of many many steps. These need to be taken frequently by both groups and individuals in the hope that one day this will be the case.
When I moved to California from Michigan I determined that anyone who I allowed close to me would have to be nude accepting. That was 45 years ago. Otherwise I might know you but you'd not become a close friend or a girl friend or a spouse.
I'm married for 35 years to a nude accepting spouse who is not nudist herself and it's not a problem.. Spouses ought not to be clones of each other.
A fascinating read as always. And one I can identify with, married to a non naturist who was a very big prude, it was onLy on his passing that I was able to do more than sunbathe in my garden.. which is luckily quite private. Now I enjoy going to events, and visiting p,aces I had previously only read about.
Fair comments. I did start from a more advantageous position than many, so I didn't have to work nearly as hard as people from other more restrictive countries and cultures.
Interesting article. I like reading about people's lifestyles and choices as it relates to naturism. You are quite fortunate to have found a partner who supports your lifestyle. Thank you for sharing.
interesting article to know your naturism journey & the hard efforts you have put in. It's very nice to see anyone getting what he/she is yearning for & enjoying it. Someone may have called you as lucky, however it's not to degrade your efforts which you have taken to live your life enjoying naturism. Because in some places/countries you don't have a choice to live your naturism life outside your home walls too, even if he/she is willing to take genuine efforts & I feel someone may have called you lucky only in that context.
Thank you. Another reader has made a similar observation, and yes I am lucky to have been born into a country that is more tolerant of social nudity. I accept that it is far more difficult for many people.
This is a great account of your journey and the choices that you’ve made. I can really relate to it because some of the timings and circumstances are similar.
I almost feel like I’m a sucker for punishment because I’ve taken a slightly different route. I’ve had that same “what’s getting me closer or further to the type of life that brings me joy.”
The biggest difference is that I’ve continued to work within the same relationship and family circumstances, which at times can be quite challenging but also immensely rewarding.
I think the biggest lesson that I’ve learnt in my journey since 2011 is that it’s not the people or circumstances around me that limit what’s possible. It’s my own mindset and how I view things around me.
I think a pivotal break through that I had was realising how large an impediment it is trying to conceal nudity. In my view that really boils down to an ingrained expectation that it’s socially unacceptable to be naked.
Once I realised this and got past the stigma of being seen naked by other people (non-nudists), then anything was technically possible. I could entirely choose my own boundaries and not be subconsciously directed by them.
The real benefit of all of these things combined is being able to remould and redefine nearly anything I turn my mind to. Thus it’s not luck that I can go naked at the local beach when I choose to. I’ve created that actuality. Anyone can.
Same around home. We tore down the front fence. We live somewhere that neighbours overlook the garden, but because I’ve got past that hesitancy to be seen naked, these aren’t impediments to nudity. If anything they’re enablers because now that I’ve got accustomed to being naked whether people are around or not, I don’t think about it.
I don’t in fact even notice other people.
Like you say. Luck has nothing to do with it.
Thanks for your comments. I think it is largely true that once we stop being bothered by what other people may think, we can be more true to ourselves.
im intresed in naturist stories, and books of any authors that right about it THANK YOU
It is certainly easier living in a nude tolerant society, it is worth noting however that this does not currently extend to all individuals. However the journey to one of total clothing optional acceptance is one of many many steps. These need to be taken frequently by both groups and individuals in the hope that one day this will be the case.
When I moved to California from Michigan I determined that anyone who I allowed close to me would have to be nude accepting. That was 45 years ago. Otherwise I might know you but you'd not become a close friend or a girl friend or a spouse.
I'm married for 35 years to a nude accepting spouse who is not nudist herself and it's not a problem.. Spouses ought not to be clones of each other.
I had the same situation with my wife of 44 years being opposed to my being naked in her presents.
Sadly this issue will never be reconciled because she passed away on the 31 of January.
A regret to be sure.
Alan, I am so sorry for your loss.
Very well said, and I'm pleased that you have a place, that you can be who you want to be..
A fascinating read as always. And one I can identify with, married to a non naturist who was a very big prude, it was onLy on his passing that I was able to do more than sunbathe in my garden.. which is luckily quite private. Now I enjoy going to events, and visiting p,aces I had previously only read about.
Fair comments. I did start from a more advantageous position than many, so I didn't have to work nearly as hard as people from other more restrictive countries and cultures.